What is inevitable in life is the transition of our parents from this realm to the next.
We all believe in different things. I believe that my parents are still with me, just in a different form. A form that makes conversation a bit one sided 🙂
There are many things I wish I had done while they were here. One of my biggest regrets is not asking enough questions. Your actions reflect where you are in your life at the time. I know that it was my age, and age appropriate immaturity, that prevented me from asking the things that I wish I knew now. For those of you who are blessed to still have, not just your parents, but any elder in your life ask questions! Ask the things that give you clarity as to who they were when they were younger and how they wound up where they are now.
Here are 5 questions to begin your quest to learn about your loved one
- What did you want to do for a living when you were growing up? So many of us wind up in a career because of life circumstances not because of choice. Find out what their passion was before “responsibility” came knocking.
- Name your 3 greatest loves. Think about it. Even if you are madly in love, and married right now, there was someone who swept you off your feet before them. Finding out who they loved and why it ended is a great way to see who they were before you existed.
- What is the one place you wish you had traveled to and never did? You learn a lot about a person when you hear of their travel fantasies. Does your stoic mother wish she had scuba dived in Greece? Does your predictable father wish he had backpacked through Europe?
- What is your absolute favorite meal? If for no other reason then to have a family meal to pass down through generations.
- If you could give me one piece of advice for my life, what would it be? There is no one more wise than someone who is facing death. They have no room for bullshit. It will be the best advice you ever receive.
These are just a few! Think of as many as you can. You don’t have to ask them all in one day but ask. Write down your answers and reflect on them as you age yourself. Their answers will become invaluable to you. Enjoy learning!